Many within society are working to address issues of otherness and the ways people discriminate against others in various ways such as racism, sexism, ageism, ableism, and classism. In this paper we do not pretend to offer a solution, but we wish to add to the understanding of the complexities at play. We consider the importance of how our developmental negotiation and resolution of early childhood processes of separation and individuation incline us to adopt and move between four different existential-relational positions, each of which colors how we experience ourself in relation to our own self and to other selves. To illustrate how this can dynamically manifest in ways pertinent to the embrace of otherness, we draw on our experiences as psychological consultants to university students, administrators, and faculty.

社会上许多人正在努力解决其他问题，以及人们以各种方式歧视他人的方式，例如种族主义，性别歧视，年龄歧视，能力主义和阶级主义。在本文中，我们不假装提供解决方案，但希望增加对复杂性的理解。我们认为，重要的是我们的发展协商和解决幼儿分离和个性化的早期过程如何促使我们在四种不同的存在关系位置中采用和移动，每种位置关系着我们如何与自己和他人进行自我体验自我。为了说明这是如何以与他人的拥抱相关的方式动态体现的，我们借鉴了作为大学生，行政人员和教师的心理顾问的经验。