Recently, it has been demonstrated that wisdom positively predicted well-being. The paradox is that the development of wisdom is strongly linked to adverse experiences that can make a person feel “wiser but sadder”. This paper aims to test whether two types of dialogues with oneself, i.e. integrative and identity internal dialogues moderate the relationships of critical life experiences and reminiscence/reflectiveness (as components of wisdom) with psychological well-being. To check this, 202 women and 217 men completed four measures: Self-Assessed Wisdom Scale, Psychological Well-Being Scales, Internal Dialogical Activity Scale—Revised, and Scale of Integration of Perspectives. It was found that critical life experiences and reminiscence/reflectiveness poorly (usually negatively) or not at all predict the general well-being and its dimensions. Integrative and identity internal dialogues moderate these relationships: with a higher intensity of these dialogues the negative relationships weaken, insignificant ones become positively significant, and positive links strengthen. The findings can be used by psychologists to promote the development of clients’ wisdom, and consequently, well-being.

最近，已经证明智慧可以积极预测幸福。矛盾的是，智慧的发展与使人感到“更聪明但更悲伤”的逆境经历密切相关。本文旨在检验两种类型的自我对话，即整合对话和身份内部对话，是否调节了批判性生活经历和回忆/反思（作为智慧的组成部分）与心理健康的关系。为了检查这一点，202 名女性和 217 名男性完成了四项测量：自评智慧量表、心理健康量表、内部对话活动量表——修订版和观点整合量表。结果发现，关键的生活经历和回忆/反思能力很差（通常是负面的）或根本不能预测总体幸福感及其维度。整合和身份内部对话调节这些关系：随着这些对话强度的增加，消极关系减弱，微不足道的关系变得积极重要，积极联系加强。心理学家可以利用这些发现来促进客户智慧的发展，从而促进幸福感。