Gender differences in sexuality have gained considerable attention both within and outside of the scientific community. We argue that one of the main unacknowledged reasons for these differences is simply that women experience substantially worse sex than men do. Thus, in examinations of the etiology of gender differences in sexuality, a confound has largely been unacknowledged: Women and men are treated to different experiences of what is called “sexuality” and “having sex.” We discuss four arenas in which women’s experience of sexuality may often be worse than men’s: (a) anatomical differences, (b) sexual violence, (c) stigma, and (d) masculine cultures of sexuality. Then we consider how each disparity might explain well-known gender differences in sexuality.

性行为的性别差异在科学界内外引起了相当大的关注。我们认为，造成这些差异的主要原因之一是女性比男性经历的性行为要差得多。因此，在研究性行为中性别差异的病因学时，一个混淆在很大程度上未被承认：女性和男性在所谓的“性行为”和“性行为”方面受到不同的体验。我们讨论了女性的性体验通常比男性更糟糕的四个领域：（a）解剖差异，（b）性暴力，（c）耻辱，和（d）男性的性文化。然后我们考虑每个差异如何解释众所周知的性行为性别差异。