This article explores the ways in which the intensification of parenting and the notion of children at risk have influenced grandmothers’ narratives and practices. Interviews with grandmothers who regularly look after their grandchildren, reveal that their practices are framed around the notions of children to be protected, educated and entertained. Such notions reveal that aspects of grandmothers’ roles as protectors, educators, playmates and confidants involved negotiations with parents around the ideal of ‘putting the child first’. The article argues that intensive parenting has influenced grandmothering but the way this is enacted reveals resistance to certain aspects of intensive parenting.

本文探讨了养育方式的强化和儿童处于危险之中的观念如何影响祖母的叙述和实践。对经常照看孙辈的祖​​母的采访表明，他们的做法是围绕着孩子受到保护、教育和娱乐的观念而构建的。这些观念表明，祖母作为保护者、教育者、玩伴和知己的角色涉及与父母围绕“把孩子放在第一位”的理想进行谈判。这篇文章认为，密集养育影响了祖母，但它的实施方式揭示了对密集养育的某些方面的抵制。