An empowered sense of “self” is crucial for emotional well-being and positive relationships. Certain family interaction patterns can disrupt the adult's sense of “mattering” to the child, eroding their perceived self-efficacy. Mattering can be understood as a felt sense of relational agency which is necessary for experiencing one's interactions as meaningful, effective, and self-determined. When parents generate more positive future narratives in co-creation with their therapist, their sense of relevance to a child can be restored. In this way, more constructive forms of interaction can emerge with their child which has hitherto eschewed their care. This article aims to provide a conceptual basis for addressing an absence of reciprocity, where children demonstrate harmful or self-destructive behavior and refuse to cooperate in therapy. In such instances, one-sided parental action, utilizing nonviolent resistance methods, can influence relational dynamics. Imaginary methods can then facilitate shifts to psychological states in which the parent internally experiences efficacy and mattering more often without requiring validation from the “physical child” in the here and now. We introduce examples of specific imaginary techniques, which in our clinical practice have shown to facilitate such shifts in parents. We discuss neuroscientific theories that may account for their powerful impact we witness in our clinical experience.

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使用非暴力抵抗的全身治疗中的物质和父母的存在：想象方法的利用

一种强大的“自我”意识对于情绪健康和积极的人际关系至关重要。某些家庭互动模式会破坏成人对孩子“重要”的感觉，削弱他们感知到的自我效能感。重要可以理解为一种感觉的关系代理感，这是体验一个人的互动有意义、有效和自主所必需的。当父母与他们的治疗师共同创造更积极的未来叙述时，他们与孩子的相关感就可以恢复。通过这种方式，可以与他们的孩子进行更具建设性的互动形式，而他们的孩子迄今为止一直避开他们的照顾。本文旨在为解决互惠缺失问题提供概念基础，即儿童表现出有害或自毁行为并拒绝在治疗中合作。在这种情况下，单方面的父母行为，利用非暴力抵抗方法，可以影响关系动态。然后，想象的方法可以促进向心理状态的转变，在这种状态下，父母更频繁地在内心体验效率和重要性，而无需此时此地的“物理孩子”的验证。我们介绍了特定想象技术的例子，这些技术在我们的临床实践中已经证明可以促进父母的这种转变。我们讨论了神经科学理论，这些理论可能解释了我们在临床经验中看到的强大影响。然后，想象的方法可以促进向心理状态的转变，在这种状态下，父母更频繁地在内心体验效率和重要性，而无需此时此地的“物理孩子”的验证。我们介绍了特定想象技术的例子，这些技术在我们的临床实践中已经证明可以促进父母的这种转变。我们讨论了神经科学理论，这些理论可能解释了我们在临床经验中看到的强大影响。然后，想象的方法可以促进向心理状态的转变，在这种状态下，父母更频繁地在内心体验效率和重要性，而无需此时此地的“物理孩子”的验证。我们介绍了特定想象技术的例子，这些技术在我们的临床实践中已经证明可以促进父母的这种转变。我们讨论了神经科学理论，这些理论可能解释了我们在临床经验中看到的强大影响。