Socialization surrounding gender and sexuality is prominent within the familial context. Gender and sexuality are frequently linked with the assumption that gender-expansive behavior leads to nonheterosexuality. Research has largely focused on parental perspectives, leaving queer youth experiences largely invisible. Utilizing semistructured interviews with 10 queer young adults, this project contributes to the existing discussions regarding gender and sexuality socialization while growing up. First, participants described parents’ seemingly natural ability to correctly categorize youth’s sexual orientation, which is often linked to gender nonconforming behavior. Participants reinforced essentialized ideas of gender and sexuality through their discussion of engagement in expansive gender behavior. Furthermore, women discussed more freedom to engage in diverse gender behavior, while being expected to conform to traditional gender roles. Through elevating youth’s viewpoints on gender and sexuality family dynamics, these findings can assist service providers and parents in supporting queer youth across their gender and sexual development.

围绕性别和性的社会化在家庭环境中很突出。性别和性行为经常与性别扩张行为导致非异性恋的假设联系在一起。研究主要集中在父母的观点上，让酷儿青年的经历在很大程度上被忽视了。该项目利用对 10 名酷儿年轻人的半结构化访谈，为关于成长过程中的性别和性社会化的现有讨论做出了贡献。首先，参与者描述了父母对青少年性取向进行正确分类的看似天生的能力，这通常与性别不规范行为有关。参与者通过讨论参与广泛的性别行为，强化了关于性别和性的基本观念。此外，妇女讨论了更多的参与不同性别行为的自由，同时被期望遵守传统的性别角色。通过提升青年对性别和性家庭动态的看法，这些发现可以帮助服务提供者和父母支持酷儿青年的性别和性发展。