Consensual non-monogamous (CNM) relationship rules, the boundaries and understandings partners have about acceptable behaviors related to their CNM relationship, are associated with relationship functioning and sexual health risk among gay and bisexual men. Partnered young gay and bisexual men (YGBM) experience unique relational challenges and sexual health disparities. Thus, understanding the nuances of relationship rules among YGBM in CNM relationships is of particular importance. However, few studies have examined relationship rules specifically among YGBM. The current study sought to explore relationship rules among YGBM in CNM relationships, including both those explicitly discussed and those implicitly assumed. We also assessed concordance and discrepancies in partners’ reports of their relationship rules, as well as rule violations. Partners from 10 CNM couples (n = 20; M_age = 25.3) completed separate semi-structured interviews that included questions about their relationship rules. Individual- and dyad-level analyses were conducted using a modified version of the consensual qualitative research method. Three main themes of relationship rules emerged from the data: extradyadic partner criteria, conditions regarding extradyadic sex, and conditions regarding maintenance of the primary relationship. While 39% of participants reported rules that were not endorsed by their partner, few clearly contradictory discrepancies in partners’ reports were observed. Nine participants reported having at least one implicit rule and 70% of participants (from 8 of 10 couples) reported that they and/or their partner violated at least one rule. Explicit rules and rule concordance may be associated with improved relationship functioning. Common violations of sexual risk reduction rules may contribute to YGBM’s increased HIV/STI risk.

双方同意的非一夫一妻 (CNM) 关系规则、伴侣对其 CNM 关系相关可接受行为的界限和理解，与男同性恋和双性恋男性的关系功能和性健康风险有关。有伴侣的年轻男同性恋和双性恋 (YGBM) 经历了独特的关系挑战和性健康差异。因此，了解 CNM 关系中 YGBM 之间关系规则的细微差别尤为重要。然而，很少有研究专门研究 YGBM 之间的关系规则。目前的研究试图探索 CNM 关系中 YGBM 之间的关系规则，包括那些明确讨论的和那些隐含假设的。我们还评估了合作伙伴对其关系规则以及违反规则的报告的一致性和差异。n  = 20；中号_时代 = 25.3) 完成单独的半结构化访谈，其中包括有关他们关系规则的问题。使用共识定性研究方法的修改版本进行了个人和双人水平的分析。数据中出现了关系规则的三个主要主题：婚外伴侣标准、婚外性条件和维持主要关系的条件。虽然 39% 的参与者报告了他们的合作伙伴不认可的规则，但在合作伙伴的报告中几乎没有观察到明显矛盾的差异。9 名参与者报告至少有一项隐性规则，70% 的参与者（来自 10 对夫妇中的 8 对）报告说他们和/或他们的伴侣至少违反了一项规则。显式规则和规则一致性可能与改进的关系功能相关联。