Despite the importance of sex for the maintenance of satisfying romantic relationships, our understanding of a person's sexual ideals-the traits and attributes a person desires in a sexual partner or experience-and what might buffer against lower satisfaction associated with unmet sexual ideals is limited. Across four studies including cross-sectional, dyadic, longitudinal, and experimental methods (N = 1,532), we draw on the Ideal Standards Model and theories of communal motivation to examine whether unmet sexual ideals are associated with lower sexual satisfaction and relationship quality and test whether higher sexual communal strength-the motivation to meet a partner's sexual needs-buffered these effects. Across studies, when individuals perceived their partner to fall short in meeting their sexual ideals, they reported poorer sexual and relationship quality. People with partners low in sexual communal strength reported poorer sexual satisfaction and relationship quality when their sexual ideals were unmet, but these associations were attenuated among people with partners who were high in sexual communal strength. Perceived partner responsiveness-both in general (Study 2) and to a partner's sexual needs specifically (Study 3)-was one reason why people with partners high in sexual communal strength were buffered against the lower sexual and relational quality associated with unmet ideals. (PsycInfo Database Record (c) 2021 APA, all rights reserved).

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未满足的性理想的危害和性公共力量的缓冲作用。

尽管性对于维持令人满意的浪漫关系很重要，但我们对一个人的性理想——一个人在性伴侣或经历中渴望的特征和属性——以及可能缓冲与未满足的性理想相关的较低满意度的理解是有限的。在包括横断面、二元、纵向和实验方法（N = 1,532）在内的四项研究中，我们利用理想标准模型和公共动机理论来研究未满足的性理想是否与较低的性满意度和关系质量和测试有关更高的性公共力量——满足伴侣性需求的动机——是否缓冲了这些影响。在所有研究中，当个人认为他们的伴侣未能满足他们的性理想时，他们报告说性和关系质量较差。与性公共强度低的伴侣的人在性理想未得到满足时报告性满意度和关系质量较差，但在性公共强度高的伴侣中，这些关联减弱。感知到的伴侣反应——无论是总体上（研究 2）还是对伴侣的性需求（研究 3）——都是为什么与伴侣的性共同力量高的人缓冲与未满足的理想相关的较低的性和关系质量的原因之一。（PsycInfo 数据库记录 (c) 2021 APA，保留所有权利）。但这些关联在性伴侣强度高的人中减弱了。感知到的伴侣反应——无论是总体上（研究 2）还是对伴侣的性需求（研究 3）——都是为什么与伴侣的性共同力量高的人缓冲与未满足的理想相关的较低的性和关系质量的原因之一。（PsycInfo 数据库记录 (c) 2021 APA，保留所有权利）。但这些关联在性伴侣强度高的人中减弱了。感知到的伴侣反应——无论是总体上（研究 2）还是对伴侣的性需求（研究 3）——都是为什么与伴侣的性共同力量高的人缓冲与未满足的理想相关的较低的性和关系质量的原因之一。（PsycInfo 数据库记录 (c) 2021 APA，保留所有权利）。