Research shows pronoun use may be related to relationship factors. Our research invited 40 couples (adults mostly partnered for 2 or fewer years) to engage in a 15-min conversation after completing demographics, attachment, and relationship satisfaction measures. Romantic partners tended to use pronouns similarly. Attachment anxiety and avoidance were related to lower relationship satisfaction. Bivariate actor partner interdependence models showed when men used we pronouns, lower relationship satisfaction was reported in both partners. When men used I pronouns, women were more likely to use we pronouns. When men used you pronouns, women were more likely to use I pronouns and engage in more attachment avoidant behaviors. Findings suggest communication patterns may be interpreted differently by younger couples. Couples therapists may want to investigate communication patterns to create a new dialogue that increases relationship satisfaction and limits insecure attachment behaviors.

研究表明代词的使用可能与关系因素有关。我们的研究邀请了40对夫妇（成年人大多为2年或以下的伴侣）在完成了人口统计，依恋关系和关系满意度测评之后，进行了15分钟的对话。浪漫伴侣倾向于使用代词。依恋焦虑和回避与较低的人际关系满意度有关。双变量演员伴侣相互依赖性模型显示，当男人使用我们代词时，两个伴侣的关系满意度都较低。当男人使用我代词时，女人更可能使用我们代词。当男人使用你的代词时，女人更有可能使用我的代词，并进行更多的依恋回避行为。研究结果表明，年轻夫妇对沟通方式的理解可能有所不同。