This article focuses on women’s recollections of being triangulated in their parents’ relationship within the context of domestic violence. Fifteen women were interviewed as part of a larger grounded theory study that looked into the women’s understanding of their childhood experiences of domestic violence and their impact on their individual development and their intimate relationships. The women spoke about how difficult it was for them not to take sides in their parents’ conflicts. Some actively chose to put themselves in the middle of the conflict. Some were recruited by their parents into the parental violence. Others witnessed a sibling get triangulated. Getting involved sometimes helped to limit the abusive parent’s violent behaviour. At other times, it made the fighting worse. The participants also spoke about some of the complex feelings that they had to deal with, as part and parcel of being triangulated. As the women grew up, triangulation in their family of origin’s dynamics continued to be a persistent and challenging process, especially if the parental conflict was ongoing or unresolved. The women’s experiences strongly suggest that this process needs to be paid attention to in clinical practice both when working with families where there is domestic violence and also when working with childhood survivors of domestic violence

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回顾童年：家庭暴力背景下女性的三角经验

本文重点关注女性在家庭暴力背景下在父母关系中被三角化的回忆。作为一项更大的扎根理论研究的一部分，15 名妇女接受了采访，该研究调查了妇女对其童年家庭暴力经历的理解及其对个人发展和亲密关系的影响。妇女们谈到她们在父母的冲突中不选边站是多么困难。有些人主动选择将自己置身于冲突之中。有些人被他们的父母招募到父母暴力中。其他人目睹了一个兄弟姐妹被三角化。参与有时有助于限制虐待父母的暴力行为。在其他时候，它使战斗变得更糟。参与者还谈到了他们必须处理的一些复杂感受，这是三角测量的重要组成部分。随着女性的成长，她们原生家庭的三角关系仍然是一个持续且具有挑战性的过程，尤其是在父母冲突持续或未解决的情况下。妇女的经历强烈表明，无论是在与存在家庭暴力的家庭一起工作时还是在与家庭暴力的儿童幸存者一起工作时，都需要在临床实践中注意这一过程。