ABSTRACT Post-romanticism can be viewed as an historical construct that can be applied to singular experiences as well as broad understandings of change in couple and family relationships. This commentary focuses on the former approach, building on the six papers in this special issue. Four interconnected themes are explored: the relationship between falling in love and partner choice; the pull of narcissism and push of relating present in every developing love relationship; the experience of loss involved in surrendering illusion; and an exploration of what love in the consulting room might look like. The broad conclusion arrived at is that stable and satisfying relationships are post-romantic in the sense that they have in common the capacity to engage with and develop from the many minor deaths associated with enduring love. This provides a definition of the task therapists are often asked to assist with by those seeking help for troubled relationships.

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后浪漫时代的爱、性和心理治疗：评论

摘要 后浪漫主义可以被视为一种历史建构，可以应用于单一体验以及对夫妻和家庭关系变化的广泛理解。这篇评论侧重于前一种方法，以本期特刊中的六篇论文为基础。探讨了四个相互关联的主题：坠入爱河与伴侣选择之间的关系；在每一个发展中的爱情关系中都存在自恋的吸引力和相关性的推动；放弃幻觉所带来的失落体验；并探索咨询室里的爱情可能是什么样子。得出的广泛结论是，稳定和令人满意的关系是后浪漫的，因为它们具有共同的能力，可以参与与持久爱情相关的许多轻微死亡并从中发展。