ABSTRACT This study focuses on the performativity and subversion of privacy and face in sexual minorities’ recollections of interpersonal interactions related to coming out. Drawing upon communication privacy management theory and performative face theory as conceptual foundations for this piece, the current analysis demonstrates how dominant discourses of heteronormativity undergird queer individuals’ privacy management and face negotiations as they (sometimes repeatedly) come out to others. Three overarching themes were identified from participant-generated narratives of coming out followed up with one-on-one interviews: (a) queer privacy management; (b) heteronormative face threats, including sub-themes of denials of queer disclosures, blatant face threats, and microaggressive face threats; and (c) downplaying as subversive facework. This study contributes to the emerging critical interpersonal and family communication conversation by demonstrating how heteronormativity undergirds negotiations of privacy and face, as well as the mutual influences between privacy and face. The essay ends by showcasing queer pride and growth, despite the pain associated with coming out.

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弥合隐私、面孔和异性：出柜的故事

摘要 本研究的重点是性少数群体在与出柜相关的人际交往的回忆中对隐私和面子的表演性和颠覆性。借鉴通信隐私管理理论和表演面孔理论作为本文的概念基础，当前的分析展示了异性恋的主导话语如何支撑酷儿个人的隐私管理和面对谈判，因为他们（有时反复）向他人公开。从参与者生成的关于出柜后续一对一访谈的叙述中确定了三个总体主题：(a) 酷儿隐私管理；(b) 异性恋面子威胁，包括拒绝同性恋披露、公然面子威胁和微攻击面子威胁；(c) 淡化为颠覆性的面子。本研究通过展示异性恋如何巩固隐私和面子的谈判，以及隐私和面子之间的相互影响，为新兴的关键人际交往和家庭交流对话做出了贡献。这篇文章以展示酷儿的骄傲和成长结束，尽管出柜会带来痛苦。