Stella Resnick begins this insightful book by linking couples therapy and sex therapy. She had me at hello; however is that link not self-evident? To think of the two therapies as separate is, as she says, a false dichotomy. Emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy exist together in the relational development of every individual. Additionally, and exhilaratingly, Resnick claims that body to body communication between partners has the power to repair past hurts. This is the basis of the link that makes sex therapy invaluable to couples seeking any kind of counselling. Specifically, the author explores how leftover emotions, expectations, and stresses from the past interfere with here and now relationships. She has trademarked Embodied Relational Sex Therapy (p.7.) She grounds her concepts in relational neurobiology, clinical sexology, and the experiential, present centred, methods of Gestalt therapy. A brief history of Resnick’s own process as she became a therapist is not out of place. She shares her experiential evolution and her academic connections. This part of her story helps make the point that those of us who want to do this type of counselling need to have attended to our own personal growth and capacity to sustain body-based presence and intimacy. After she has told us something about her own process, she launches her theory and practice guidelines and discussion, dividing the book into four parts. Any one of these has value as a stand alone piece. This is partly because of the author’s tendency to state and restate ideas. Because she returns often to her primary concepts, the book works in pieces as well as a whole. Part One introduces the basic grounding concept of the author that treatment of whatever problem a couple brings into a session is begun by assessing the nonverbal interactions in that immediate, present moment. Indeed, Resnick returns to this point in every section of her book, explaining how the present moment is always the place to be. She uses case illustrations to depict how this looks when assessing the couple’s relationship as well as when treating the problems in the relationship. Her prose, when describing the power of the here and now in sex, is almost poetic:

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身体之间的亲密感：通过爱，性和神经生物学的转变

斯特拉·瑞斯尼克（Stella Resnick）通过将夫妻疗法和性疗法联系起来，开始了这一有见地的书。她让我打招呼；但是，这种联系是不言而喻的吗？正如她所说，将两种疗法分开考虑是错误的二分法。情感亲密和性亲密同时存在于每个人的关系发展中。此外，令人振奋的是，雷斯尼克声称伴侣之间的身体对身体的交流具有修复过去伤害的能力。这是使性疗法对于寻求任何形式咨询的夫妇而言无价之宝的基础。具体来说，作者探讨了过去的剩余情绪，期望和压力如何影响现在和现在的关系。她已将“ Embodied Relational Sex Therapy”商标注册为商标（第7页）。她的概念扎根于关系神经生物学，临床性别学，以及格式塔治疗的经验性，目前为中心的方法。Resnick成为治疗师时自己的过程的简短历史并没有错。她分享了她的经历发展和学术联系。她的故事的这一部分有助于说明，我们中那些想要进行这类咨询的人需要注意我们自己的个人成长以及维持基于身体的存在和亲密关系的能力。在向我们介绍了自己的过程后，她启动了理论和实践指南以及讨论，将本书分为四个部分。这些中的任何一个都具有独立的价值。部分原因是作者倾向于陈述和重述思想。由于她经常回到自己的主要概念上，因此本书的内容既完整又完整。第一部分介绍了作者的基本扎根概念，即通过评估当下当前时刻的非语言互动来开始处理一对夫妇遇到的任何问题。的确，雷斯尼克在书的每个部分都回到了这一点，解释了当前时刻始终是存在的地方。她使用案例说明来描绘这对夫妇在评估夫妻关系以及治疗关系中的问题时的样子。她的散文在描述此时此刻在性爱方面的力量时，几乎充满诗意：解释当前时刻是如何始终存在的。她使用案例说明来描绘这对夫妇在评估夫妻之间的关系以及治疗关系中的问题时的样子。她的散文在描述此时此刻在性爱方面的力量时，几乎充满诗意：解释当前时刻是如何始终存在的。她使用案例说明来描绘这对夫妇在评估夫妻之间的关系以及治疗关系中的问题时的样子。她的散文在描述此时此刻在性爱方面的力量时，几乎充满诗意：