This study investigated how a trichotomy of relationships styles—self-focused autonomy, other-focused connection, and mutuality (Harter et al., 1997 Harter, S. , Waters, P. L. , Pettitt, L. M. , Whitesell, N. , Kofkin, J. , & Jordan, J. (1997). Autonomy and connectedness as dimensions of relationship styles in men and women. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships , 14(2), 147–164. doi:10.1177/0265407597142001 [Crossref], [Web of Science ®] , [Google Scholar]) are communicated in romantic relationships through seven temporal enactments of time—linearity, pace, punctuality, delay, separation, scheduling, and flexibility (Ballard & Seibold, 2004 Ballard, D. I. , & Seibold, D. R. (2004). Communication-related organizational structures and work group temporal experiences: The effects of coordination method, technology type, and feedback cycle on members’ construals and enactments of time. Communication Monographs , 71(1), 1–27. doi:10.1080/03634520410001691474 [Taylor & Francis Online], [Web of Science ®] , [Google Scholar]). Twenty in-depth interviews with New Zealand college students indicated that individuals experience all seven enactments of time in their romantic relationships when attempting to find a balance between interdependent desires of autonomy and connection. Results revealed that people integrated most temporal dimensions with multiple relationship styles; however, some temporal enactments tended to exhibit more singularity towards specific relationship styles. Participants used self-focused autonomy to describe performances of linearity, pace, and delay in their relationships. Mutuality was most commonly represented in terms of scheduling and flexibility. Findings also identified two relationship styles (i.e., other-focused autonomy and self-focused connection) not mentioned by extant literature. Other-focused autonomy was portrayed by individuals to create a sense of independence from their partner despite a desire to interact. The second new relationship style that emerged was self-focused connection. Participants described using deception and urgent excuses to get their partner’s physical presence, when their partner communicated that they wanted more time apart. This paper is the first step toward understanding the complex relationship between temporality, relationships styles, and interpersonal communication.

这项研究调查了关系样式的三分法：自我聚焦的自主权，他人聚焦的联系和相互关系（Harter等，1997）。 Harter，S. ， Waters，PL ， Pettitt，LM ， Whitesell，N. ， Kofkin，J 。和 Jordan，J。 （1997）。自主性和连通性是男女关系风格的维度。《社会和人际关系杂志》，14（2），147 – 164。doi：10.1177 / 0265407597142001 [Crossref]，[Web of Science®]  ，[Google Scholar]）通过七个时间上的时间关系在浪漫关系中进行交流-线性，节奏，准时，延迟，间隔，安排和灵活性（Ballard＆Seibold，2004年 巴拉德（Ballard，DI ）和 塞伯尔德 （Seibold）博士（2004）与沟通相关的组织结构和工作组的时间经验：协调方法，技术类型和反馈周期对成员的章程和时间制定的影响。通讯专着，71（1），1 – 27。doi：10.1080 / 03634520410001691474 [Taylor＆Francis Online]，[Web of Science® ]  ，[Google Scholar]）。二十次对新西兰大学生的深入访谈表明，当人们试图在相互依存的自主欲望和联系之间寻求平衡时，他们会经历浪漫关系中的所有七个时光。结果表明，人们将大多数时间维度与多种关系样式结合在一起；但是，某些时态法则倾向于表现出对特定关系风格的更多单一性。参与者使用自我关注的自主权来描述他们的关系的线性，步调和延迟表现。相互关系最常见的是日程安排和灵活性。研究结果还确定了现有文献中未提及的两种关系风格（即，其他关注自主性和自我关注连接）。个人描绘了以他人为中心的自治，尽管有互动的愿望，但仍能建立一种与伴侣的独立感。出现的第二种新的关系方式是自我关注的联系。参与者描述了当他们的伴侣表示希望间隔更多时间时，使用欺骗和紧急借口来获得伴侣的身体状态。本文是理解时间性，关系样式和人际交往之间复杂关系的第一步。