ABSTRACT This paper explores the taboo of love in the case of children in care. Love can often become a taboo for these children, something they unconsciously forbid themselves from experiencing due to fears of further loss and pain. Love can also become a taboo for the adults working with looked after children, including psychotherapists. The author presents her work with individual looked after children and with the professional network around them. She proposes that love tends not to be a central theme in the care system, despite its relevance to children who have often not experienced adequate love in their early lives. The implication of this proposition is that such children, who may have never known love, or who may have had a distorted experience of love, may be at risk of remaining unloved within the care system, which could seriously compromise their development. The author calls for more support for professionals, so that they can be facilitated to perform their vital work in promoting a loving approach in the system around children in care.

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爱护儿童的禁忌：它通过移情关系和围绕孩子的系统出现

摘要 本文探讨了在照顾儿童的情况下爱的禁忌。爱常常成为这些孩子的禁忌，由于害怕进一步的损失和痛苦，他们无意识地禁止自己体验。对于与照顾孩子一起工作的成年人（包括心理治疗师）来说，爱情也可能成为禁忌。作者将她的作品与单独照顾的儿童以及他们周围的专业网络一起展示。她提出，爱往往不是照料系统的中心主题，尽管它与那些在早年经常没有经历过足够爱的孩子有关。这个命题的含义是，这些孩子可能从未了解过爱，或者可能有过扭曲的爱体验，可能会面临在照料系统中得不到爱的风险，这可能会严重影响他们的发展。作者呼吁为专业人士提供更多支持，以便他们能够开展重要的工作，在系统中促进关爱儿童的护理方法。