ABSTRACT This paper seeks to gain insight into the experiential dimensions of sexual consent as the basis for distinguishing sex from a sexual violation. Based on focus group and individual interviews with young people in Denmark we seek to explore how sexual experiences are co-constituted by discourses and experiences. We do this by exploring how young people interpret, what we conceptualize as consenting vis-à-vis non-consenting to sex and analysing how these notions are present in, or resisted by, experiences of unwanted sex. Drawing on Andrew Sayer’s needs-based conceptualization of human beings with a capacity for “emotional reason”, we show that young people’s notions of consenting is conditioned by a situated “sensing” based on care for the other. Secondly, we show that when and for whom to care for may be related to the relational context, the opportunity for individual pleasure and homosocial recognition. This leaves room for two inconsistent notions of non-consenting. Finally, we suggest that sexual violations may not be based on miscommunication but a lack of commitment to “sensing,” informed by gendered dispositions to act on opportunism.

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“您可以在人身上感觉到” –丹麦年轻人对性（非）同意的观念和经验

摘要本文旨在深入了解性同意的经验维度，以此作为区分性别与性侵犯的基础。基于焦点小组和对丹麦年轻人的个人访谈，我们试图探讨性经验是如何通过话语和经验共同构成的。为此，我们探索了年轻人的理解方式，将我们概念化为对不同意性行为的同意，并分析了这些观念在不受欢迎的性行为中是如何出现或受到抵制的。借鉴安德鲁·萨耶（Andrew Sayer）基于需求的具有“情感理性”能力的人的概念，我们表明，年轻人的同意观念是以对他人的关心为基础的“感觉”为条件的。其次，我们表明，何时何地照顾谁可能与关系上下文有关，个人享乐和获得社会认可的机会。这为两个不一致的不一致概念留出了空间。最后，我们建议性侵犯不是基于错误的沟通，而是基于对机会主义的性别倾向而缺乏对“感觉”的承诺。