This article is a reflective account of the process of a social care worker’s professional development over a span of 28-years, primarily working within children’s residential care settings. It charts the author’s journey with regard to his ability to cope with anxiety (pain-based fear) and to live “on the edge” in his professional practice. The author’s personal experience as a young boy of the death of his father is identified as having caused pain-based behaviours for the author until such time as he faced the pain of this loss. The traumatic experience then became an asset in his direct work with children and young people in the role of a “wounded healer”. The article introduces the concept of “vicarious confidence” and its critical role in leadership and supervision. Self-care is discussed and the concept of “system-trauma” is identified. The article also discusses the role of magic in social care and links this to neuroscience and brain MRI images. The article highlights the positive role pain can play in enabling workers to connect empathically with hurt children and young people and posits that if we are to care authentically then we must be prepared to experience pain.

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感受疼痛并以任何方式进行

本文是对28年间社会护理工作者的专业发展过程的反思，主要是在儿童寄宿场所工作。它描绘了作者应对焦虑（基于疼痛的恐惧）和在专业实践中“处于边缘”的能力的旅程。提交人作为父亲去世的小男孩的个人经历被确定为导致提交人基于痛苦的行为，直到他面对这种损失的痛苦为止。然后，他的创伤经历成为了他与儿童和年轻人直接工作中“受伤的治疗者”的财富。本文介绍了“不信任”的概念及其在领导和监督中的关键作用。讨论了自我保健，并确定了“系统创伤”的概念。本文还讨论了魔术在社会护理中的作用，并将其与神经科学和大脑MRI图像相关联。这篇文章强调了痛苦在使工人同情与受伤的儿童和年轻人之间建立联系方面所起的积极作用，并假设如果我们要进行真诚的护理，那么我们必须准备好经历痛苦。