ABSTRACT While the public campaign slogan in New Zealand when referring to family violence, is ‘It’s Not OK’, many women in New Zealand report that the Family Court prefers the catchphrase ‘It never happened’. When women and children escaping violence and abuse reach out to the New Zealand Family Court for protection believing the justice system will help them, they often enter an alternative reality where they are not believed and are subsequently made less safe. This is particularly so for those women whose well-founded fears for their children’s safety get reinterpreted as evidence of a deliberate attempt to alienate the children from their fathers. The Backbone Collective, an independent organisation, surveyed New Zealand women about their experiences in the Family Court, finding that many women reported being accused of parental alienation. This paper investigates the sources of these allegations of parental alienation and how they impact mothers and their children. We argue that the use of parental alienation in the New Zealand Family Court is undermining the international rights of children.

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“这不好”，但“它”从未发生过：父母疏远指控破坏了新西兰家庭法庭中儿童的安全

摘要 虽然新西兰的公共竞选口号在提及家庭暴力时是“这不对”，但新西兰的许多妇女报告说，家庭法院更喜欢“从未发生过”的口号。当妇女和儿童为逃避暴力和虐待而向新西兰家庭法院寻求保护时，他们相信司法系统会帮助他们，但他们往往进入另一种现实，在这种现实中，他们不被相信，随后变得不那么安全。对于那些有充分理由担心孩子安全的妇女来说尤其如此，她们被重新解释为故意试图将孩子与父亲疏远的证据。独立组织 Backbone Collective 对新西兰妇女在家庭法庭上的经历进行了调查，发现许多妇女报告说被指控与父母疏远。本文调查了这些父母疏远指控的来源以及它们如何影响母亲和她们的孩子。我们认为，新西兰家庭法院使用父母异化的做法损害了儿童的国际权利。