ABSTRACT In Turkey, conflicts with parents-in-law can be shaped by opposing viewpoints that can emerge from the coexistence of modern secular and Islamic traditions. The integral role of parents-in-law in Turkish families makes it important to understand the nature of conflict between couples and their in-laws, and how these conflicts are managed. Guided by structural family theory, this preliminary study aims to explore the nature and management of conflict between parents-in-law and couples. This interpretive phenomenological study analyzed semi-structured interviews conducted with four Turkish couples. Conflicts with parents-in-law appeared to be gendered in nature and stemmed from unmet expectations and family roles. Gender also influenced how conflict was resolved. Daughters-in-law tended to avoid conflict by remaining silent, and sons-in-law were more forthcoming about their dissatisfactions or took the blame to avoid conflict. In-laws of opposite sex appeared to have more contemptuous relationships compared to in-laws of the same sex. Implications for clinical work and research are discussed.

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在充满伊斯兰传统的世俗社会中处理与岳父母的冲突：土耳其已婚夫妇的观点

摘要 在土耳其，现代世俗和伊斯兰传统并存的对立观点可以塑造与岳父母的冲突。岳父母在土耳其家庭中扮演着不可或缺的角色，因此了解夫妻与其姻亲之间冲突的性质以及如何处理这些冲突非常重要。本初步研究以结构性家庭理论为指导，旨在探讨公婆与夫妻之间冲突的性质和处理方式。这项解释性现象学研究分析了对四对土耳其夫妇进行的半结构化访谈。与岳父母的冲突在本质上似乎是性别化的，源于未满足的期望和家庭角色。性别也影响了冲突的解决方式。儿媳倾向于通过保持沉默来避免冲突，而女婿则更坦率地表达他们的不满，或者为了避免冲突而承担责任。与同性的姻亲相比，异性的姻亲似乎有更多轻蔑的关系。讨论了对临床工作和研究的影响。