This paper addresses the question whether there is a rational connection between selfrespect and the disrespect of others by engaging with the socalled Stoic View (SV) presented by Colin Bird. According to SV, there is no such connection because the disrespect other people show us can never provide us with a reason to lose our selfrespect. This essay argues that SV is correct only from a thirdpersonal perspective and false from a firstpersonal one. Since we are social cognizers, we use how other people treat us as evidence, for instance, about our moral status, and we are justified in doing so if we have no reason to dismiss them as untrustworthy. Distinguishing between the firstand thirdpersonal perspectives is important to avoid victimblaming. I show this by discussing an example from literature in which the protagonist concludes that she does not have equal moral status and thus lacks in selfrespect without any mistake in her reasoning simply because she has been given false information about her moral status.

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自尊与他人的不尊重

本文通过与科林·伯德（Colin Bird）提出的所谓的斯多葛观点（Stoic View）进行互动，解决了自尊与他人不尊重之间是否存在合理联系的问题。根据SV的说法，这是没有联系的，因为他人的不尊重表明我们永远无法为我们提供失去自尊心的理由。本文认为，SV仅从第三人称视角是正确的，而从第一人称视角是错误的。由于我们是社会认知者，因此我们将其他人如何对待我们当作关于我们的道德状况的证据，并且如果我们没有理由将他们视为不可信的理由，那么我们就有理由这样做。区分第一人称视角和第三人称视角对于避免受害人很重要。