Abstract Same-sex families are distinct: at least one parent is not genetically related to each child and external state regulation of coupling and separation processes is scarce. The disassembling of such families therefore offers a singular setting to explore nontraditional perceptions and enactments of family and kinship. Tracing separation processes and custody agreements of same-sex couples with children, this paper suggests that at the family formation stage, couples side-lined genetic relatedness and emphasized social kinning. As the partners’ relations deteriorated, parent-child genetic links were increasingly prioritized (though not genetic links with ova donors or half genetic siblings). Post-separation arrangements varied greatly. Some couples sustained the former family’s framework and nurtured co-parent and sibling relations, while others marginalized non-genetic relatedness, at times to complete detachment. Having a genetic offspring emerged as a major determinant of post separation relations. The paper illustrates the elasticity of same-sex kinship perceptions, with social kinning particularly amenable to circumstance changes. The study is based on accounts of eight lesbians and gay men in Israel, depicted through interviews (4), therapist's accounts (3) and a media report (1). The accounts were analyzed for emergent themes of family and relatedness as they were formed, transformed and enacted in these contexts.

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谈判亲属关系：关于解散带孩子的同性家庭

摘要同性家庭是截然不同的：至少一个父母与每个孩子在遗传上都不相关，并且对耦合和分离过程的外部状态调节很少。因此，此类家庭的解体为探索家庭和亲属的非传统观念和行为提供了一个独特的环境。追溯同性夫妇与子女的分离过程和监护权协议，本文认为，在家庭形成阶段，夫妻对遗传关系一无所知，并强调了社会亲属关系。随着伴侣关系的恶化，亲子遗传联系越来越受到重视（尽管与卵子供体或一半遗传兄弟姐妹之间的遗传联系并非如此）。分离后的安排差异很大。一些夫妇维持了前家庭的框架，并培养了父母与兄弟姐妹的关系，而其他人则将非遗传相关性边缘化，有时会完全脱离。遗传后代的出现是后期分离关系的主要决定因素。该论文说明了同性亲属观念的弹性，其中社会亲属关系尤其适合情况变化。该研究基于以色列八名男女同性恋者的叙述，通过访谈（4），治疗师的叙述（3）和媒体报道（1）进行了描述。在这些背景下，对账目的家庭和亲缘关系新兴主题进行了分析，转化和制定。社会风貌尤其适合情况变化。该研究基于以色列八名男女同性恋者的叙述，通过访谈（4），治疗师的叙述（3）和媒体报道（1）进行了描述。在这些背景下，对账目的家庭和亲缘关系新兴主题进行了分析，转化和制定。社会风貌尤其适合情况变化。该研究基于以色列八名男女同性恋者的叙述，通过访谈（4），治疗师的叙述（3）和媒体报道（1）进行了描述。在这些背景下，对账目的家庭和亲缘关系新兴主题进行了分析，转化和制定。