ABSTRACT The experience of separation and divorce comes alive in this panel through film, case material from child and adult analyses, and from observational data of infants and toddlers and research interviews of adult children of divorce. Important questions are raised regarding how these separation and divorce processes and associated fantasies are intertwined with developmental progression and its variations. We have had the opportunity to view two analyses, one child and one adult, up close, to see how separation and divorce issues play themselves out in treatment and how they are skillfully addressed. We have also become more aware of how unsettling transitions back and forth between two homes remain prominent in the memory of children of separation and divorce. They never feel on solid ground, and their sense of “home” is adversely altered. Parenting declines as parents become preoccupied and frightened. Loss, intermittent decathexis, interparent hatred, pathological envy, and parental alienation distract these parents and they actually harm their children. Furthermore, the toll of separation and divorce on the now adult child of divorce is addressed. Fear and dread of marrying, having children, and then divorcing, are unbearable in anticipation of these steps. It is at this moment when we realize the scars of separation and divorce that have remained in the background until now come to the forefront in visible and dramatic ways.

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结束语：关于离婚和离婚影响的心理分析思考

摘要分离和离婚的经历通过电影，儿童和成人分析的案例资料，婴幼儿的观察数据以及对成年子女的研究访谈而生动活泼。关于这些分离和离婚过程以及相关的幻想如何与发展进程及其变化交织在一起，提出了重要的问题。我们有机会近距离查看两项分析，即一名儿童和一名成人，以了解分居和离婚问题如何在治疗中发挥作用，以及如何巧妙地解决这些问题。我们也越来越意识到，在分居和离婚的孩子们的记忆中，两个家庭之间来回的不安过渡仍然很突出。他们从来没有站稳脚跟，他们的“家”感也受到不利影响。随着父母变得忙碌和恐惧，育儿能力下降。失去，间歇性的衰弱，父母间的仇恨，病态的嫉妒和父母疏远分散了这些父母的注意力，实际上伤害了他们的孩子。此外，还解决了现在成年离婚子女的分居和离婚带来的损失。对于这些步骤，恐惧，恐惧的婚姻，生子，然后离婚是无法忍受的。正是在这一刻，我们意识到，分离和离婚的伤痕直到现在仍以可见和戏剧化的方式出现在背景中。解决了现在成年的离婚子女的分居和离婚带来的损失。对于这些步骤，恐惧，恐惧的婚姻，生子，然后离婚是无法忍受的。正是在这一刻，我们意识到，分离和离婚的伤痕直到现在仍以可见和戏剧化的方式出现在背景中。解决了现在成年的离婚子女的分居和离婚带来的损失。对于这些步骤，恐惧，恐惧的婚姻，生子，然后离婚是无法忍受的。正是在这一刻，我们意识到，分离和离婚的伤痕直到现在仍以可见和戏剧化的方式出现在背景中。