ABSTRACT The author argues that pregnancy is the most radical coexistence of self and other. The meaning each woman ascribes to this bizarre two-in-one-body experience is a function of her psycho-history, drawing on unconscious sources and conscious experience imbibed and elaborated since her babyhood. In pregnancy, conceptualization thrives on ambiguity. Due to our own emotional complexity, depictions of others tend to be elaborated as multi-dimensional constructs. But when static fantasies of doom or desire predominate, anxiety reduces an expectant mother’s anticipation to fixed ideas, which permeate the intense experiences of gestation. Such rigid mental representations prime the birth-giving experience, and unless mitigated, spill over into caregiving, saturating the earliest relations with preconceptions that form and inform the infant’s inner reality. For most carers, mixed feelings prevail, especially under close and exhaustive conditions of hospitality, when the intimate beloved can rapidly turn into a persecutory stranger. However, such healthy maternal ambivalence cannot be freely admitted in societies where cultural imagery idealizes maternity. A variety of coping mechanisms then operate to deal with “forbidden” feelings, increasing the primary carer’s tendency to polarize by distorting, denying, splitting off and/or projecting some aspects of the new demanding reality in order to maintain a commendable sense of self or the baby. It is argued that perinatal disturbance arises in the inconsistency between the glamorized portrayal of pregnancy or baby-care, and its grueling aspects. As defenses fail, depression (self-blame) or persecutory disorders (blaming others) ensue when guilty disenchantment or grievance threaten to destabilize one’s own self-image of parenthood. Emotional distress may also indicate inadmissible disappointment at reality’s failure to replicate the imaginary baby. If this image persists in the parent’s mind, the new infant is inescapably burdened by pressure to live up to an unconsciously grasped but incomprehensible (enigmatic) double.

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绝对的款待和想象中的婴儿

摘要作者认为怀孕是自我与他人之间最根本的共存。每个女人赋予这种离奇的二合一体验的意义是她的心理历史的一个功能，它借鉴了自婴儿期以来所吸收和阐述的无意识资源和有意识经验。在怀孕期间，概念化因模棱两可而兴旺。由于我们自己的情感复杂性，对他人的描绘往往被作为多维构造加以阐述。但是，当厄运或欲望的静态幻想占据主导地位时，焦虑会降低准妈妈对固定观念的期望，这种观念会渗透到妊娠的强烈经历中。这种刻板的心理表现会孕育分娩的经历，除非得到缓解，否则会蔓延到照料，早先的关系使形成并告知婴儿的内在现实的先入之见饱和。对于大多数看护人而言，混杂的情绪占上风，尤其是在亲密而详尽的待客条件下，亲密的亲人可以迅速变成迫害的陌生人。但是，在文化意象使产妇理想化的社会中，无法健康地接受这种健康的产妇矛盾心理。然后，各种应对机制用于处理“被禁止的”感觉，通过扭曲，否认，分裂和/或预测新的苛刻现实的某些方面，增加主要照顾者的两极分化倾向，以维持可称赞的自我意识。宝宝。有人认为，围产期干扰源于迷人的怀孕或婴儿照护描写与其烦恼的方面之间的不一致。当辩护失败时，罪恶感或不满威胁到破坏自己的父母自我形象时，就会产生沮丧（自责）或迫害性疾病（指责他人）。情绪困扰也可能表明，现实无法复制想象中的婴儿，这令人失望。如果这种形象在父母的脑海中持续存在，新生婴儿就不可避免地承受着承受不自觉地掌握但难以理​​解的（神秘的）双重负担的压力。