ABSTRACT Separation and divorce are not isolated events in a child’s life, but rather, must be understood as processes that influence and reverberate throughout the life trajectory. This panel, which was presented at the 2016 American Psychoanalytic Association Winter Meetings, explores the impact of separation and divorce on children going through the court process (Sarezky film, Talk to Strangers); discusses the psychoanalytic treatment of the child (Bram) and the adult (Lament); and is the focus of observational research of infants and toddlers and research interviews with adults (Gunsberg). Our discussant (Straus) raises important questions regarding how separation and divorce influence developmental progression and become critical to the life narrative of the child and adult, and how these processes affect the parents’ ability to parent. The parent is consumed with loss: loss of the spousal relationship, loss of the family as it was previously known, loss of contact with the child, and loss of one’s own self as previously constructed. Straus concludes by considering the high-conflict parental relationship in which one parent’s preoccupation with loss leads to destructive thoughts and behaviors toward the other parent and children.

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关于离婚和离婚影响的心理分析思考

摘要分离和离婚不是孩子一生中的孤立事件，而必须理解为影响和回荡整个人生轨迹的过程。该小组在2016年美国精神分析协会冬季会议上进行了介绍，探讨了分居和离婚对经历法庭程序的儿童的影响（Sarezky电影，与陌生人交谈）；讨论了对儿童（布拉姆）和成人（哀叹）的心理分析治疗；并且是婴幼儿观察研究和成人研究访谈的重点（Gunsberg）。我们的讨论者（Straus）提出了重要的问题，即分居和离婚如何影响发育进程并对儿童和成人的生活叙事变得至关重要，以及这些过程如何影响父母的父母能力。父母被吃掉了：失去了配偶关系，失去了以前知道的家庭，失去了与孩子的联系以及失去了先前建构的自己的自我。施特劳斯的结论是，通过考虑高冲突的父母关系，在这种关系中，一位父母对损失的全神贯注会导致对另一位父母和孩子的破坏性思想和行为。