Resilient patients from pathological backgrounds can manifest an ability to defy unacceptable relational experience and replace it with a wished-for way of relating: the “fantasy relationship.” Through the negation of each bad interaction, the fantasy of a potential good interaction is necessarily created, contributing to the evolving construction of an idealized parent–child dyad in the imagination. Attempts to actualize a fantasy relationship in reality involve occupying either of the 2 roles in the dyadic fantasy—that of the ideally loved child or the ideally loving parent—a phenomenon described as “role exchangeability.” The fantasy relationship is an improvement on the repetition of maladaptive relational patterns, but because fantasy involves more flawless idealization than pragmatic experience, applying it leaves one vulnerable to rage reactions if others refuse to correctly occupy the accompanying role. Through a successful therapeutic process, an alternative form of relating can develop, one that is sufficiently idealizable, yet flexible, forgiving, and pragmatically attainable.

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幻想关系：重复的解毒剂和韧性的解释。

来自病理背景的有弹性的患者可以表现出一种抗拒不可接受的关系经验的能力，并将其替换为一种理想的关系方式：“幻想关系”。通过否定每一次不良互动，必然会产生潜在良好互动的幻想，从而有助于在想象中不断构建理想化的亲子二人组。在现实中实现幻想关系的尝试涉及占据二元幻想中的两个角色中的任何一个——理想中爱的孩子或理想中爱的父母——这种现象被描述为“角色互换性”。幻想关系是对适应不良的关系模式重复的改进，但因为幻想比实际经验涉及更多完美的理想化，如果其他人拒绝正确地扮演伴随角色，那么应用它会使一个人容易受到愤怒的反应。通过成功的治疗过程，可以发展出另一种关系形式，这种形式足够理想化，但灵活、宽容且务实。