This article demonstrates the continued prevalence of traditional, heteronormative practices regarding marriage and naming practices, and also considers the complex choices made by same-sex couples who marry in relation to whether there are any benefits in changing their surname. The study draws on data from an online survey of 1,000 respondents, and reveals that it continues to be viewed as more ‘normal’ for a woman to take her husband’s surname in a heterosexual union than for her to make any other choice. Whilst other options (such as the woman retaining the surname given to her by her parents, for instance) are often considered in relation to heterosexual marriage, these continue to be seen as a deviation from the norm. We find that the role of tradition is critical to heterosexual women’s decisions over what to do with their surname, whether they follow the culturally expected route or consciously deviate from it. Same-sex couples are broadly perceived to have comparably more freedom than heterosexuals regarding their names, and here we analyse whether this is the case. Through qualitative critical analysis of the discursive responses of those completing our survey, and some quantitative discussion of the data, we demonstrate that heteronormative assumptions about a woman’s role in a heterosexual relationship have continued salience and that this leads to a conscious and often difficult negotiation of her own identity as both an individual and a wife.

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英国婚姻和民事伴侣关系中的身份和命名实践

本文展示了传统的异性恋习俗在婚姻和命名习俗方面的持续盛行，并考虑了同性伴侣在结婚时做出的复杂选择，以及更改姓氏是否有任何好处。该研究利用了一项对 1,000 名受访者进行的在线调查的数据，结果表明，与女性做出任何其他选择相比，在异性恋结合中使用丈夫的姓氏仍然被视为更“正常”。虽然其他选择（例如，女性保留父母给她的姓氏）经常被考虑与异性婚姻有关，但这些仍然被视为对规范的偏离。我们发现传统的作用对于异性恋女性决定如何处理她们的姓氏至关重要，他们是否遵循文化预期的路线或有意识地偏离它。人们普遍认为同性伴侣在姓名方面比异性恋者拥有更多的自由，我们在这里分析是否是这种情况。通过对完成我们调查的人的话语反应的定性批判性分析，以及对数据的一些定量讨论，我们证明了关于女性在异性恋关系中的角色的异性恋假设一直很突出，这导致了有意识的、往往是困难的谈判她作为个人和妻子的身份。在这里我们分析是否是这种情况。通过对完成我们调查的人的话语反应的定性批判性分析，以及对数据的一些定量讨论，我们证明了关于女性在异性恋关系中的角色的异性恋假设一直很突出，这导致了有意识的、往往是困难的谈判她作为个人和妻子的身份。在这里我们分析是否是这种情况。通过对完成我们调查的人的话语反应的定性批判性分析，以及对数据的一些定量讨论，我们证明了关于女性在异性恋关系中的角色的异性恋假设一直很突出，这导致了有意识的、往往是困难的谈判她作为个人和妻子的身份。