More than 13% of parents identify as being alienated by at least one of their children. Parental alienation often occurs after divorce when one parent (un)intentionally persuades his or her children to distance themselves from or reject the other parent. This study, couched in relational dialectics theory, explores the meaning of parenting from the perspective of 40 alienated parents. This analysis yielded two competing discourses: the culturally dominant discourse of parental norms (DPN) and the culturally marginalized discourse of parental victimization (DPV). Throughout the narrative interviews, the DPV resisted the DPN in four ways (diachronic separation, entertaining, countering, and negating). This study's findings provide insights into the perspective of the alienated parents, advance what we know about family distancing, and provide practical implications.

中文翻译：

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从疏远父母的角度看待育儿的意义

超过13％的父母认为自己被至少一个孩子疏远了。父母疏离通常发生在离婚后，其中一位父母（无意）说服他或她的孩子与另一位父母保持距离或排斥另一位父母。这项基于关系辩证法理论的研究从40位疏远的父母的角度探讨了父母的含义。这种分析产生了两种相互竞争的话语：父母规范的文化占主导地位的论述（DPN）和父母受害的文化边缘化论述（DPV）。在整个叙事性采访中，DPV通过四种方式（历时分离，娱乐性，反击和否定性）抵制DPN。这项研究的发现提供了对疏远父母的观点的见解，推动了我们对家庭疏离的了解，