ABSTRACT

Drawing on interviews with fifteen queer fat femme women and gender nonconforming individuals, I explore queer fat femmes’ negotiations of dating in contemporary queer communities in Canada. Using thematic analysis to analyse the interviews, I identify how queer fat femmes’ experiences of dating in queer communities are often characterised by rejection and fetishisation. These experiences have significant and negative impacts, generating feelings of undesirability, fear, and failure. I connect the marginalisation of queer fat femmes in queer dating contexts to the reproduction and circulation of fatphobia and femmephobia in queer communities. Finally, I suggest that queer fat femmes’ responses to their marginalisation in queer dating contexts reflect resilience, as they find ways to navigate their oppressions and fulfill their needs.

摘要

通过对 15 位酷儿肥胖女性和性别不合格个体的采访，我探讨了加拿大当代酷儿社区中酷儿肥胖女性的约会谈判。使用主题分析来分析采访，我确定了酷儿胖女人在酷儿社区的约会经历如何通常以拒绝和恋物癖为特征。这些经历会产生重大的负面影响，产生不受欢迎、恐惧和失败的感觉。我将酷儿约会背景下酷儿肥胖女性的边缘化与酷儿社区中肥胖恐惧症和女性恐惧症的繁殖和传播联系起来。最后，我建议酷儿胖女人对他们在酷儿约会环境中被边缘化的反应反映了韧性，因为他们找到了应对压迫和满足需求的方法。