The analyses undertaken in this article refer to the harm experienced in close relationships, where the lack of forgiveness and the breakdown in the relationship can be a source of additional suffering for the victim. Referring to the discussion conducted in the Journal of Philosophy of Education in the years 2002–2003, I assume that one of the most difficult challenges for the injured individual is to determine whether change made by the perpetrator of evil encourages the individual to trust the perpetrator or whether forgiveness can actually be understood as consent to further harm. Another challenge is that the injured person must make a decision about forgiveness when s/he perceives change in the perpetrator if lack of forgiveness is not to become the cause of a definitive breakdown in the relationship. I propose the thesis that a person—by reference to acts of self‐forgiveness—can learn to identify the moment when forgiveness is possible and necessary. After explaining what self‐forgiveness is, what act it relates to and what its moral value is, I show how self‐forgiveness and reflection on the process of self‐forgiveness can benefit education for forgiveness of another person.

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自我宽恕教育是宽恕教育的一部分

本文所进行的分析是指亲密关系中遭受的伤害，在这种情况下，缺乏宽恕和关系破裂会给受害者带来更多痛苦。提及《教育哲学杂志》上的讨论在2002年至2003年间，我认为受伤害的个人最困难的挑战之一是确定罪犯的改变是否会鼓励个人信任罪犯，或者宽恕实际上是否可以理解为同意进一步伤害。另一个挑战是，如果缺乏宽恕不会成为双方关系最终破裂的原因，那么当受害人意识到施暴者的变化时，他/她必须做出宽恕的决定。我提出这样一个论点，即一个人通过参考自我宽恕的行为，可以学会识别可能和必要的宽恕的时刻。在解释了自我宽恕是什么，它与什么行为有关以及它的道德价值是什么之后，