There is a special category of mentor: the person who supports you as much as they support your career. They offer a unique relationship that is rich and powerful. Researchers have tried to better understand this relationship and the other varieties of mentoring relationships. But there is a significant gap in that research: we don't talk about the experience of the sudden loss of a mentor. Sometimes mentoring relationships end-especially if the mentoring was in support of specific goals, learning objectives, or when the relationship simply no longer fits the needs of the mentor or the mentee. But sometimes disease, tragic accidents, or other powers beyond our control intervene; suddenly, relationships with important mentors are simply gone. How do we navigate these losses? In this piece, I reflect on the most powerful mentorship relationships, on the loss thereof, and on the challenges of mourning lost mentors. It celebrates mentors who invest in others, who put we ahead of me. This elegy is for Dr. Joanna Bates and Dr. Meridith Marks-two women who embodied the highest qualities of mentorship.

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对失去导师的反思

有一类特殊的导师：支持你和支持你的事业的人。他们提供了一种丰富而强大的独特关系。研究人员试图更好地理解这种关系和其他种类的指导关系。但该研究存在重大差距：我们不会谈论突然失去导师的经历。有时指导关系会结束——特别是如果指导是为了支持特定目标、学习目标，或者当这种关系不再适合指导者或受指导者的需要时。但有时疾病、悲剧性事故或其他我们无法控制的力量会介入；突然之间，与重要导师的关系完全消失了。我们如何应对这些损失？在这篇文章中，我反思了最强大的师徒关系，关于失去它，以及哀悼失去的导师所面临的挑战。它庆祝那些投资于他人的导师，他们让我们领先于我。这首挽歌献给乔安娜·贝茨博士和梅里迪思·马克斯博士——两位体现了最高指导品质的女性。