Few studies have examined how men who use intimate partner violence (IPV) experience being a parent. This study describes how Norwegian men in treatment for IPV reflect upon the impact of their childhood experiences on their fathering. We interviewed 11 men in treatment for IPV regarding their fathering experience, and their memories of having been parented. We performed a descriptive phenomenological analysis of the data. We identified two superordinate themes that described the participants’ fathering experience: being a benign versus being a detrimental force in the child’s life and having the intention of not repeating and the actual repetition of harmful parenting. The participants described being conflicted regarding being potentially damaging for their child’s development. They generally described a lack of stable positive relationships, both early in life and in the present. Partner-violent men’s meaning making of their fathering seems to be influenced by their early-life experiences with their parents in several problematic ways. Fathers who use IPV may both accept and reject that they have been harmed by the parenting they received as children. Similarly, they may both acknowledge and discard that their use of violence harms their children. We suggest that therapy should explore these themes and their consequences for the father - child relationship.

很少有研究检查使用亲密伴侣暴力（IPV）的男人作为父母的经历。这项研究描述了接受IPV治疗的挪威男性如何反思其童年经历对其父亲的影响。我们采访了11名接受IPV治疗的男性，涉及他们的父亲经历和对育儿的记忆。我们对数据进行了描述性的现象学分析。我们发现，所描述的参与者的做父亲出现两种上级主题：是一个良性的对比是在孩子的生活中的有害力和具有不重复的意图和有害养育实际重复。参与者描述了在潜在损害孩子成长方面的冲突。他们一般都描述了在生命的早期和现在都缺乏稳定的积极关系。遭受伴侣暴力的男子的父亲的寓意似乎受到他们与父母的早期生活经历的影响，有几种问题。使用IPV的父亲可能会接受也可能拒绝接受孩童时期养育子女的伤害。同样，他们可能会承认并摒弃使用暴力伤害其子女的行为。我们建议治疗方法应探讨这些主题及其对父子关系的影响。