We often think of normal childhood as a progressive development towards a fixed—and often tacitly individualistic and masculine—model of what it is to be an adult. By contrast, phenomenologists, psychoanalysts, sociology of childhood, and feminist thinkers have set out to offer richer accounts both of childhood development and of mature existence. This paper (1) draws on accounts of childhood development from phenomenologist Maurice Merleau-Ponty and object relations theorist D. W. Winnicott in order to argue that childhood development takes place in “transitional spaces”; (2) explores typical gendered patterns in the formation of selfhood that “split” relationality and separateness into the “feminine” and the “masculine”; and (3) offers a phenomenology of perception, love, and objectivity in order to show the manner in which, contra individualistic and masculine visions of adulthood, maturity requires an embrace rather than eschewal of ambiguity, and the capacity to continue to dwell in the transitional space between relatedness and separateness.

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“不是分离而是一种形式的分离”：梅洛-庞蒂与女性主义客体关系理论的对话

我们经常认为正常的童年是朝着一个固定的——通常是默认的个人主义和男性化——的成人模式的渐进发展。相比之下，现象学家、精神分析师、童年社会学和女权主义思想家已经着手提供关于童年发展和成熟存在的更丰富的解释。本文 (1) 借鉴了现象学家 Maurice Merleau-Ponty 和客体关系理论家 DW Winnicott 对儿童发展的描述，以论证儿童发展发生在“过渡空间”中；(2) 探索自我形成中典型的性别模式，将关系性和分离性“分裂”为“女性化”和“男性化”；(3) 提供了一种关于知觉、爱和客观性的现象学，以表明，