ABSTRACT To help people own who they are, to get to their emotional basics, hold what they feel and be able to think even under the heaviest interpersonal pressure—this is my first and main therapeutic goal. The social consequences are that emotionally skillful people stop ignoring the inconsistencies they perceive in relationships; they ask for clarification once they no longer accept that their signaling is dismissed as “wrong” behavior. Their asking gives rise to fair conflicts, but a fair conflict is disrupting, because it involves a lot of bilateral exploration about established assumptions: relationships constantly exceed reached conclusions, if people have the courage to look at them with a fresh eye. This rupture-repair process is in turn based upon a degree of incongruence in human interactions as a source of endemic conflict: the mind is growing through its bridging of interactive gaps. Bearing the impact of full-range emotions arising from rupture-and-repair is anything but a comfortable societal ritual.

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错误：心理治疗中的社会副作用

摘要 帮助人们了解自己，了解自己的情感基础，即使在最沉重的人际关系压力下也能保持自己的感受并能够思考——这是我的第一个也是主要的治疗目标。社会后果是，情感上有技巧的人不再忽视他们在人际关系中察觉到的不一致之处；一旦他们不再接受他们的信号被认为是“错误的”行为，他们就会要求澄清。他们的要求会引发公平的冲突，但公平的冲突却是破坏性的，因为它涉及对既定假设的大量双边探索：如果人们有勇气以全新的眼光看待它们，关系就会不断超出得出的结论。这种破裂-修复过程反过来又基于人类互动中的某种程度的不一致，这是地方性冲突的根源：通过弥合互动差距，思维正在成长。承受因破裂和修复而产生的全方位情绪的影响绝不是一种舒适的社会仪式。