Abstract
Throughout development, the conditions that elicit children’s support seeking behaviour change hand in hand with maturation and changing developmental tasks. Little is known about the situations in which adolescents need support or about which parental behaviours elicit adolescents’ sense of being supported. In the current study, adolescents living in the Netherlands (N = 98, Mage = 15.5, SD = 1.16, range = 14–18 years) filled in online questionnaires in which they were asked to recall autobiographical support-related memories (ASMs) separately for both parents. Support from both parents was most frequently needed in case of concerns about competence. Loss or illness of close others or pets elicited primarily a need for maternal support whereas family conflicts and practical problems most frequently elicited a need for paternal support. Additionally, parent behaviour reported in times of distress was most frequently related to comforting and facilitating support seeking. These behaivours were rated as satisfying and sufficiently supportive for the reported distress. These results confirm the importance of parental support in adolescence. Clinical implications of these findings and directions for future research are discussed.
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Although autonomy is the core developmental task in adolescents, they continue to need parental support during distress.
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They need support when they fear that they are not academically or socially competent.
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Mothers are the primarily desired support figure when loved ones and pets get ill or die.
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Fathers are the primarily desired support figure when adolescents experience family conflict.
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Adolescents mainly desire parental comfort during these stressors, a finding that is informative for family therapy.
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de Jonge, Y.B., Nauta, M.H. & Bosmans, G. In Which Situations Do Adolescents Seek Parental Support and What Do They Need?. J Child Fam Stud 31, 2849–2859 (2022). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10826-022-02280-7
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