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How to put yourself in someone else’s shoes: The role of point-of-view in the interpretation of mixed messages

  • Nikos Vergis

    Nikos Vergis researches the mechanisms that help us understand what others mean beyond what is said. He received his PhD in Linguistics from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, USA, and subsequently held an appointment as a postdoctoral researcher at McGill University, Canada, where he investigated the role of language and prosody in the communication of social intentions. Currently, he is a Visiting Lecturer at the University of Crete, Greece.

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From the journal Intercultural Pragmatics

Abstract

Does having a communicative role other than the speaker’s make a difference to the way pragmatic meaning is construed? Standard paradigms in interpersonal pragmatics have implicitly assumed a speaker-centric perspective over the years, however modern approaches have re-considered the role of listener evaluations. In the present study, I examine whether assuming different communicative roles (speaker, listener, observer) results in varying interpretations. A web-based experiment revealed that participants who took the perspective of different characters in short stories differed in the way they interpreted what the speaker meant. In most cases, participants in the role of the listener interpreted speaker meaning in more negative ways than participants in the other roles. The present study suggests that the directionality of the difference (negative inferences under the listener’s perspective) could be explained by taking into account affective factors.

About the author

Nikos Vergis

Nikos Vergis researches the mechanisms that help us understand what others mean beyond what is said. He received his PhD in Linguistics from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, USA, and subsequently held an appointment as a postdoctoral researcher at McGill University, Canada, where he investigated the role of language and prosody in the communication of social intentions. Currently, he is a Visiting Lecturer at the University of Crete, Greece.


Note

This study is part of the author’s doctoral dissertation (Department of Linguistics, University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign). IRB approval was obtained before conducting the study.


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Appendix

A

Dependent variables

Q1. Speaker’s Commitment to the truth of his/her statement

Speaker Perspective: Do you believe what you say?

Listener Perspective: Does [the speaker] believe what s/he says?

Observer Perspective: Does [the speaker] believe what s/he says?

Most likely NO (1) ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ (7) Most likely YES

Q2. Speaker’s Goal

Speaker Perspective: Are you teasing or being serious?

Listener Perspective: Is [the speaker] teasing or being serious?

Observer Perspective: Is [the speaker] teasing or being serious?

Teasing (1) ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ (7) Serious

Q3. Speaker’s Attitude

Speaker Perspective: Are you trying to be friendly or mean to [the listener]?

Listener Perspective: Is [the speaker] trying to be friendly or mean to you?

Observer Perspective: Is [the speaker] trying to be friendly or mean to [the listener]?

Friendly (1) ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ (7) Mean

Q4. Speaker’s emotional state

Speaker Perspective: Do you say what you say because you are happy or upset with [the listener]?

Listener Perspective: Does [the speaker] say what s/he says because s/he is happy or upset with you?

Observer Perspective: Does [the speaker] say what s/he says because s/he is happy or upset with [the listener]?

Happy (1) ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ (7) Upset

Q5. Listener’s Reaction

Speaker Perspective: Will [the listener] be amused or hurt by what you say?

Listener Perspective: Will you be amused or hurt by what [the speaker] says?

Observer Perspective: Will [the listener] be amused or hurt by what [the speaker] says?

Amused (1) ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ ○ (7) Hurt

Published Online: 2019-05-01
Published in Print: 2019-05-07

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