I propose an alternative conception of freedom in an actually existing liberal order by focusing on how gay men in Podgorica, Montenegro maintain love and kinship relations. For theorists of late liberalism, the demands of liberal freedom and those of social relatedness have been seen as opposed. By contrast, in Podgorica we can trace a notion of non-autological freedom understood as an ability to engage in a certain practice while thinking through its conditions and constraints from multiple perspectives and in a way that my interlocutors saw as respectful of others. Linking anthropological discussions of freedom with a focus on ordinary ethics, I offer an understanding of freedom as a relational category practised through an open and shared deliberation and imaginative identification, which echoes Polanyi’s notion of social freedom. Gay men who pursued love and sexual fulfilment as well as stringent family expectations did not enact freedom as always-already individualised subjects who made autonomous choices; they came into being as particular socio-moral persons by deliberating either collectively, through an actual conversation, or by engaging in imaginative identification with others. By placing both relationality and deliberation at the heart of freedom, this article contributes to anthropological discussions about this concept.

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黑山的少数民族性行为、亲属关系和非自律自由

我通过关注黑山波德戈里察的男同性恋者如何维持爱情和亲属关系。对于晚期自由主义的理论家来说，自由自由的要求和社会关联的要求被视为对立的。相比之下，在波德戈里察，我们可以追溯非自律自由的概念，它被理解为参与某种实践的能力，同时从多个角度思考其条件和约束，并以我的对话者认为尊重他人的方式。将人类学对自由的讨论与对普通伦理的关注联系起来，我将自由理解为一种通过开放和共享的审议和富有想象力的认同来实践的关系类别，这与波兰尼的社会自由概念相呼应。追求爱情和性满足以及严格的家庭期望的男同性恋者并没有像总是做出自主选择的个性化主体那样制定自由；他们通过集体商议、通过实际对话或通过与他人进行富有想象力的认同而成为特定的社会道德人。通过将关系性和深思熟虑放在自由的核心，这篇文章有助于关于这个概念的人类学讨论。