The purpose of this study is to better understand what happens to families when a parent remarries quickly after the death of a long-term partner. Men typically re-partner much more rapidly than women do after the death of a spouse. We used a qualitative, grounded-theory method to interview six parents (all men) and their adult children (12 participants total) about their experiences when fathers lost their spouse and re-partnered quickly. We found a variety of reasons for rapid remarriage, and a number of implications for parent-child relationships, including feelings of losing one parent in body and another in relationship, different expectations between parents and children related to holding on to memories of the deceased and finding ways to let go, remaining parents looking back with unexpressed regret, and finally experiences of repair. Clinical recommendations for therapists are provided.

这项研究的目的是为了更好地了解当长期伴侣去世后父母迅速再婚时，家庭会发生什么。在配偶去世后，男性通常比女性更快地重新建立伴侣。我们使用定性的、扎根的理论方法采访了 6 位父母（均为男性）及其成年子女（共 12 名参与者），了解他们在父亲失去配偶并迅速重新合作时的经历。我们发现了多种快速再婚的原因，以及对亲子关系的一些影响，包括在身体上失去一个父母和另一个在关系中的感觉，父母和孩子之间对死者记忆的不同期望以及想办法放手，剩下的父母带着无言的遗憾回首，终于有了修为的经历。