This article addresses conflicting concerns related to space for mourning in Norway. It draws on material from qualitative interviews with bereaved parents who have lost a child in stillbirth. Space for mourning, and the need for sick leave, arose as a crucial concern and complex issue in these interviews. Although initiatives have been developed to introduce grief as a valid category in diagnostic repertoires, it is not a legitimate basis for sick leave in the acute phase. Common alternatives have been referrals to psychic instability or depression. Both variations represent a medicalization of the normal with implications that need to be addressed, and which this article discusses from the bereaved parents’ point of view. Extended parental leave, and the introduction of grief allowance, are possible alternatives for the provision of space in normal but demanding times of grief. Despite not yet part of the repertoire for gatekeepers in the Norwegian welfare state, they are part of the public discourse. Besides a crucial acknowledgment of the grief of the parents, these options also represent possibilities for preventing a pathologization of what is a normal rite of passage.

本文解决了与挪威哀悼空间相关的相互矛盾的问题。它借鉴了对死产中失去孩子的失去亲人的父母的定性访谈材料。在这些采访中，哀悼的空间和病假的需要成为一个关键问题和复杂问题。尽管已经制定了一些举措，将悲伤作为诊断曲目中的一个有效类别，但这并不是急性期病假的合法依据。常见的替代方法是转诊到精神不稳定或抑郁症。这两种变化都代表了对正常情况的医学化，具有需要解决的影响，本文从失去亲人的父母的角度进行了讨论。延长育儿假，并引入悲伤津贴，是在正常但要求苛刻的悲伤时期提供空间的可能替代方案。尽管还不是挪威福利国家看门人的曲目的一部分，但它们是公共话语的一部分。除了对父母悲伤的重要承认之外，这些选择还代表了防止正常成年仪式病态化的可能性。