Whiteness, rooted in White supremacy, gives White people access to power while shielding them from seeing racism and its impacts or from acting to resist racism. Anti-racist allyship occurs when White people act to dismantle racist systems, and it therefore can reduce the socialization into values and epistemologies of Whiteness that uphold White supremacy. In the current study, we examined aspirations and engagement in anti-racist allyship among 19 White parents of young White children. All parents in the study identified themselves as engaged in anti-racism; all but one parent in the sample identified as a woman and most were highly educated and middle class. Using in-depth interviews and analytic methods associated with grounded theory, we find that—even among this self-selected group identified on the basis of their anti-racist intentions—racism, White supremacy, and Whiteness heavily shape their parenting choices and expectations for their children and interfere with their allyship. At the same time, increased knowledge of racism and the desire for authentic connection across difference push parents toward a more genuine anti-racist allyship and cause internal conflict for parents as they attempt to resolve the discrepancy between their goals and their parenting. Our discussion highlights the application of these findings to intervention with White parents to foster anti-racist allyship.

植根于白人至上的白人赋予白人权力，同时保护他们免于看到种族主义及其影响或采取行动抵制种族主义。当白人采取行动拆除种族主义制度时，就会发生反种族主义联盟，因此它可以将社会化减少为支持白人至上的白人价值观和认识论。在当前的研究中，我们调查了 19 名白人年幼儿童的白人父母对反种族主义联盟的渴望和参与。研究中的所有父母都认为自己参与了反种族主义；除了样本中的一位父母外，其他所有人都被认定为女性，而且大多数人都受过高等教育，属于中产阶级。使用与扎根理论相关的深入访谈和分析方法，我们发现——即使在这个根据他们的反种族主义意图而自选的群体中——种族主义、白人至上和白人在很大程度上影响了他们的养育选择和对孩子的期望，并干扰了他们的盟友关系。与此同时，越来越多的种族主义知识和对不同差异之间真实联系的渴望推动父母走向更真正的反种族主义联盟，并在父母试图解决他们的目标与养育子女之间的差异时引起内部冲突。我们的讨论强调了将这些发现应用于干预白人父母以促进反种族主义联盟的应用。对种族主义的认识增加以及对跨差异的真实联系的渴望促使父母走向更真正的反种族主义联盟，并在父母试图解决他们的目标与养育子女之间的差异时引起内部冲突。我们的讨论强调了将这些发现应用于干预白人父母以促进反种族主义联盟的应用。对种族主义的认识增加以及对跨差异的真实联系的渴望促使父母走向更真正的反种族主义联盟，并在父母试图解决他们的目标与养育子女之间的差异时引起内部冲突。我们的讨论强调了将这些发现应用于干预白人父母以促进反种族主义联盟的应用。