The transition to college, however enacted, is viewed as a time of joyous discovery and self-exploration for the launched young adult. For the family, this transition may allow for pride in parental accomplishment and perhaps relief as the young adult departs the family home. However, in both circumstances, there is an undercurrent of loss and perhaps unexpressed grieving. If unacknowledged and unresolved, these feelings may cause the student to question readiness for college and personal maturity, perhaps spiraling into depression or substance abuse and culminating in withdrawal or dismissal. At home, the challenge of reimaging family daily life and parental connection may lead to either overinvolvement or distancing, deflecting but not resolving the accompanying family pain. This article will explain the normative process of “freshman grief,” integrate the concepts of this loss through the lens of narrative counseling, and offer suggestions for mental health workers in secondary schools and on college campuses to help students and families anticipate, process, and resolve this time of bereavement in the midst of the excitement of the first year (n = 175).

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大学悲伤：使离开和留下的痛苦正常化

向大学的过渡，无论如何制定，都被视为年轻成人快乐发现和自我探索的时刻。对于家庭来说，这种转变可能会为父母的成就感到自豪，也可能会因为年轻人离开家而感到宽慰。然而，在这两种情况下，都有一种暗流的损失和可能未表达的悲伤。如果没有得到承认和解决，这些感觉可能会导致学生质疑大学和个人成熟的准备情况，可能会陷入抑郁或药物滥用，并最终退学或被解雇。在家里，重新想象家庭日常生活和父母联系的挑战可能会导致过度参与或疏远，转移但不能解决伴随的家庭痛苦。本文将讲解“新生悲痛、