Little research focuses on how counsellors experience counselling encounters concerning intimate partner violence. This study reports on narrative research conducted with eight South African non-governmental organisation counsellors. Participants spoke of creating productive and caring counselling dynamics, and providing non-directive counselling. However, they also indicated providing moral guidance, particularly in cases where pregnancy or children were involved. Success was viewed rather narrowly as the women leaving the relationship, setting up ‘all-or-nothing’ outcomes. Such ‘success’ led to counsellor happiness, whilst failure in this regard led to counsellors experiencing anger and burn-out. We conclude that the conundrums evident in these data are grounded in patriarchal systems, limiting the efficacy of counselling based on a bondage and deliverance narrative. Implications for practice and training are also outlined.

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南非暴力亲密伴侣关系中女性咨询的难题​​：对实践的影响

很少有研究关注辅导员如何体验与亲密伴侣暴力有关的辅导遭遇。本研究报告了与八位南非非政府组织顾问进行的叙事研究。参与者谈到创造富有成效和关怀的咨询动态，并提供非指导性咨询。然而，他们也表示提供道德指导，特别是在涉及怀孕或儿童的情况下。成功被狭隘地视为女性离开关系，建立“要么全有要么全无”的结果。这样的“成功”导致辅导员快乐，而这方面的失败导致辅导员感到愤怒和精疲力竭。我们得出结论，这些数据中明显的难题是基于父权制的，限制基于束缚和释放叙述的咨询效果。还概述了对实践和培训的影响。