ABSTRACT This paper is about an infant’s first experience of ‘relating to the other’ as explored through once weekly psychoanalytic psychotherapy with a mother and her infant over a period of 18 months. It considers the impact of trauma on the mother’s capacity to develop reverie for her infant in any ordinary way. It explores the significance of the third in being able to bear the splitting of hateful projections of the infant in order to protect a good maternal object, and, ultimately, in being able to allow space for the mother–infant relationship to come into being and develop. The impact of patriarchal and fundamentalist states of mind on mothering, where utter certainty is a feature, and the roots of such states in infancy are also considered. This paper aims to highlight the urgency of psychotherapeutic early intervention for parents and their infants where there is severe relational trauma in a parent that compromises the infant’s mental health and development from the beginning. Child psychotherapists, with further specialist supervision and training, are well placed to do such work due to their experience of psychoanalytic infant observation and capacity to tolerate and think about disturbing states of mind and early infantile anxieties.

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你是谁？对你而言我是谁？一个母亲和婴儿的差异体验

摘要 这篇论文是关于一个婴儿的第一次“与他人的关系”体验，这是通过每周一次的精神分析心理治疗对一位母亲和她的婴儿在 18 个月的时间里进行的探索。它考虑了创伤对母亲以任何普通方式对婴儿产生遐想的能力的影响。它探讨了第三者能够承受婴儿的可恨投射的分裂以保护一个好的母体的重要性，并最终能够为母婴关系的产生和产生留出空间。开发。父权制和原教旨主义心态对母性的影响，其中完全确定性是一个特征，并且还考虑了这种状态在婴儿期的根源。本文旨在强调对父母及其婴儿进行心理治疗早期干预的紧迫性，因为父母中存在严重的关系创伤，从一开始就损害了婴儿的心理健康和发展。儿童心理治疗师经过进一步的专业监督和培训，由于他们有对婴儿进行精神分析观察的经验以及能够容忍和思考令人不安的心理状态和早期婴儿焦虑症的能力，因此他们很适合从事此类工作。