Marriage among senior citizens is often characterized by an increasing appeal to romantic love and companionship. Japanese retired men in Malaysia tried to transform their marital relations from unions based on a strict division of labor to bonds formed out of a romantic partnership. But the new marital intimacy had hidden costs for wives, as the gendered hierarchy continued to constitute the basic terms of what were considered valuable activities in their overseas retirement. Companionate relationships do not simply erase the previously meaningful hierarchy or gender roles. The forms and expressions of gendered hierarchy also shift as dependency and power may be re‐created in nonfinancial forms. The liberal rhetoric celebrated in the ideals of companionate marriage often masks the reproduction of these regulatory forms. [intimacy, gender, transnational retirement, companionate marriage, active aging, Malaysia, Japan]

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上班后的亲密关系

高龄人士的婚姻通常以对浪漫爱情和陪伴的诉求日益增加为特征。在马来西亚的日本退休人员试图将他们的婚姻关系从基于严格分工的工会转变成由浪漫伴侣关系形成的债券。但是，新的婚姻亲密关系为妻子带来了隐性成本，因为按性别划分的等级制度继续构成了在其海外退休中被认为是有价值的活动的基本条件。同伴关系不能简单地抹去以前有意义的等级或性别角色。性别等级制的形式和表达方式也发生了变化，因为依赖关系和权力可能会以非金融形式重新产生。在伴侣婚姻的理想中庆祝的自由主义言论常常掩盖了这些管制形式的复制。[亲密关系，性别，跨国退休，同伴婚姻，积极衰老，马来西亚，日本]