This article sets out a conceptual framework for examining future building as an emotionally reflexive practice of intimacy and gendered agency. Emotionally reflexive future building is a relational activity, subject to gendering but open to queering. We illustrate this by drawing on cases taken from three qualitative studies that deal with the future building of women in relationships that do not conform to norms around having and rearing children. By referring to the future building of single mothers, women who are undecided about having children and women in non-cohabiting distance relationships we illustrate the significance of reflexively making sense of one’s own and others’ emotions in navigating gendered constraints and opportunities. Anger, despair, ambivalence, love, guilt and other emotions are key in how women with differing degrees of economic security imagine and try to create futures that queer gender.

本文提出了一个概念框架，用于检查将来的建筑，作为亲密关系和性别中介的情感反思实践。情绪反射性的未来建筑是一种关系活动，可以进行性别区分，但可以对其进行质疑。我们通过利用三项定性研究中的案例来说明这一点，这些案例涉及的是女性在未来的关系中建立的女性，这种关系不符合围绕生育和养育子女的规范。通过提及未来的单身母亲建筑，那些不确定要生孩子和处于非同居距离关系中的妇女的妇女，我们说明了在适应性别约束和机会时反思性地理解自己和他人的情感的重要性。愤怒，绝望，矛盾，爱，