In the 1970s intimate partner violence became recognized as a major societal problem in Europe. The study of the processes that enable victims to emerge from this violence is still topical. Even more so when it concerns male victims, who remain an under-studied population. This article examines the processes involved in bringing an end to intimate partner violence, including female and male victims. This qualitative study examines the intra- and inter-subjective changes underlying the processes of ending IPV in victims by using a narrative approach. Semi-structured interviews including the use of qualitative life calendars were conducted with 21 victims, 18 women and 3 men. The thematic analysis highlighted eight stages of a process of getting out from intimate partner violence. From the change in perception to the post-separation, victims’ trajectories contain similar stages nuanced by individual and environmental specificities for both female and male. Getting out from intimate partner violence involves a sequence of changes in the perception of self, partner, couple and violence that allows for cognitive and relational transitions.

在 1970 年代，亲密伴侣暴力被公认为是欧洲的一个主要社会问题。使受害者摆脱这种暴力的过程的研究仍然是热门话题。当涉及男性受害者时更是如此，他们仍然是一个未被充分研究的人群。本文探讨了结束亲密伴侣暴力（包括女性和男性受害者）所涉及的过程。这项定性研究通过使用叙述方法检查了结束受害者 IPV 过程的主体内部和主体间变化。对 21 名受害者、18 名女性和 3 名男性进行了半结构化访谈，包括使用定性生活日历。主题分析强调了摆脱亲密伴侣暴力过程的八个阶段。从观念的改变到分离后，受害者的轨迹包含类似的阶段，这些阶段因女性和男性的个体和环境特性而有所不同。摆脱亲密伴侣暴力涉及到对自我、伴侣、夫妻和暴力的感知的一系列变化，从而允许认知和关系转变。